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Who vs. How

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Who do you need to be in order to make your dreams happen? 

I journal on this question a lot.

When we ask ourselves, “how?!”, our brain tends to freak out. Mine does for sure. It zeroes in on every little detail I’m going to get wrong. Then I start to climb the energy-sucking mountain of self criticism until I’m at the summit, exhausted, and wishing I had never had the silly idea or dream in the first place.

My problem – I get stuck in the energy of HOW. When my brain doesn’t know HOW – it panics. It thinks it should know how. And it begins the cycle of self-destruction because I didn’t give it step-by-step instructions to get from A to Z.

So *how* (joke fully intended) do I get into the right energy to go after my dreams? What is the right ‘energy’ anyways?

Shift to WHO

If your dreams or ideas seem overwhelming, you’re in the right spot.

We’re often taught to focus on the HOW.

But I’m going to ask you to focus on the WHO.

Who do you need to be in order to take the very next step towards accomplishing your goals? 

Do you need to feel confident? Believe in yourself? Do you need to light a fire under your ass?

When we focus on the who, our entire energy shifts from the small details to the really important stuff, which is our energy behind the project.

Our energy matters. Ask yourself how it feels to be in total belief behind a project. Now ask yourself how it feels to not believe in it. Which scenario feels better? Which energy would allow you to get more creative?

Nothing kills a project faster than disbelief

The energy of HOW is complicated. It needs details. It needs a game plan. It needs actionable steps. And when we’re first starting out, we may not have all of those items in place quite yet.

But we are really clever.

In fact, we are so clever, that if we trick our brain into thinking we do have the plan, we do have the solution – it’ll relax, and get really creative coming up with those details and that plan.

When you believe you have the answers, you allow yourself permission to come up with them.

Or at the very least, a handful of solutions to try out in order to get some feedback.

That is where the energy of WHO comes in handy.

Who you need to be in order to achieve your dreams, goals or ideas – is someone that believes they can do it, even if they don’t know how.

Who you need to be is someone that believes in themselves enough to know that you can come up with the answers, or allow your brain to have fun getting really clever brainstorming.

I believe you know exactly what to do next. You just need a little kick to see that you’re the exact person for the job.


Need help cultivating this belief? I help my coaching clients uncover their belief and discover just how awesome they truly are. Head on over to my coaching page to learn more or to book a free consult to discuss. 


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